Signs that you might be in a pattern of self-betrayal
Self-betrayal is something that we often engage in, either consciously or unconsciously. The term may sound strange, but it involves betraying your true self by pretending to be someone else, often to please others. However, it has become so common that we often lose touch with our true selves. Here are a few signs that you may be experiencing self-betrayal.
You make an effort to meet other people's expectations
Some people begin to adhere to the expectations of others to keep their ties with those people. But if we succumb to other's expectations and conventions, we run the risk of destroying the core of who we are and spending the rest of our lives in other people's shadows. Alter your way of thinking and live up to your expectations and not others.
Not speaking up for yourself
This can take place if you compromise your position during a professional meeting or let a colleague speak over you. It may occur when someone crosses a line that you choose to ignore or when you choose to keep your demands to yourself. Remember that when someone else speaks for you, they do not necessarily reflect your needs or ideologies.
Staying in the job you hate
Working at a job you don't enjoy much can have a long-term impact on your mental health. Many people work in jobs they dislike to either alleviate financial challenges or conform to societal professional standards. However, later in life, it can lead to uncertainty regarding your ability to find employment or your suitability for other opportunities.
You start prioritizing your relationship
In a healthy relationship, both partners create personal boundaries that are acceptable to them. You run the risk of being so reliant on the other person in a relationship that you stop thinking about your own needs and objectives. Additionally, your partner might disapprove of such behavior, which could cause a split and eventual separation in your relationship.
Being self-critical
You are being a bully to yourself when you criticize your appearance, who you are, and any other list of injustices you have made in your head. However, being self-critical will not take you anywhere. Speaking harshly to yourself will not motivate you to improve; instead, it will only exacerbate the tension in your relationship with yourself.
