#HealthBytes: Sex problems in older couples and tips that help
A healthy sex life is crucial for a couple's overall mental, physical and emotional well-being. However, with the passage of time, the sexual spark, that was there in the beginning, might begin to fade away in long-term relationships or marriages. But don't worry, loss of libido is quite common among couples. Here are common sex issues in old couples, and some helpful tips.
How old age impacts your physical health
Aging brings with it many physiological and psychological changes, that directly or indirectly impact your sexual well-being. Firstly, in old age, our testosterone levels decline which reduces sexual function. As men age, they need more stimulation to achieve and maintain erection compared to their younger counterparts. Further, the orgasms are usually weaker and shorter. However, adapting your sexual routine can help improve performance.
Seniority and emotional well-being
Emotional issues are also quite prevalent during old age. Some couples might feel stressed due to increased health issues, financial concerns, and lifestyle changes, which may further lead to depression, and reduced want to get busy under sheets. Meanwhile, some couples state that their sexual equation improved with age because of lesser distractions, more time and privacy, and reduced worries about pregnancy.
Tips to deal: Practise alternate forms of intimacy
Sometimes, taking the focus off the climax can help. Couples who feel a reduced sense of sexual desire during old age are advised to practise alternate forms of intimacy. These could be anything from mutual massage to showering together, cuddling or even going on a date (why not?). This will help improve the emotional equation between the partners, ultimately resulting in better sex.
Tip: Take time to set the mood
It is common sense that in long-term, things are bound to get routine and monotonous. This implies that unlike new couples, you won't always be in the mood for sex. So, what a couple needs here is to try and set the mood before doing the deed. Among other activities, watching TV together, sitting down for coffee, going for walks, can help.
Tip: Talk about sex
Sexual communication is vital. In long-term relationships, couples might start taking each other's likes and dislikes for granted. But unfortunately, that doesn't help. It is imperative to consistently communicate about what you would and wouldn't like your partner to do in bed (and in general). If done right, sexual communication will help you achieve more satisfying as well as safer sex.
Tip: Follow a healthy lifestyle
It is advisable to follow a healthy lifestyle to maintain spark in your sex life. Exercise regularly as it will keep you physically fit and also improve your confidence. Also, make sure to eat healthy. It will improve your performance in bed. Further, let go of smoking, drinking, and substance abuse, if you haven't already.
Tip #5: Above all, just have fun!
At the end of the day, remember that sex is no competition, with anyone. As long as you and your partner are happy with what you're doing in bed, that's all what matters. So, be playful and try new things. Above all, just have fun.
