Zombieing: All about the latest toxic dating trend
The latest trends in the world of social media and online dating, being zombied is similar to getting ghosted and then getting hit on again as the person comes back from the dead after a few months. This latest toxic trend of zombieing was first shared by singer-songwriter Mariel Darling on TikTok. She explained the trend in a video that received 1.5 million views.
Dating in New York is similar to zombie apocalypse: Darling
Darling shared the video with the caption, "Girl, you're being ghosted? I'm being zombied." In another follow-up video, Darling said that dating in New York City is similar to a zombie apocalypse mixed with the thriller music video as all boys are tap dancing around the trend of commitment. People agreed with her and started sharing their personal "zombie" experiences in the comments section.
Why people are zombieing?
People resort to zombieing because they are bad at communication, afraid of commitment, or don't know how to end things. They usually try to reconnect after a certain period after they ghosted a person due to their own insecurities and anxieties. These people tend to have a malicious mindset as they reappear and disappear again when they find a better option.
Result of low attention span of people: Relationship expert
"I believe it is the result of the low attention span of people in our times - the in and out syndrome of relationships these days where more often than not one jumps into relationships and out without due diligence and the time and energy needed go deep into a relationship of mutual understanding," explains relationship expert Nisha Jamvwal.
How to avoid it next time
Getting zombied is worse than getting ghosted and may cause you emotional turmoil. If you have been zombied, accept the change and just move on. Do not reply when the person reappears as it can again lead to a toxic dating cycle. Stop contacting that person if they have been avoiding you for several days. Amp up your self-care routine and focus on yourself.
How to not zombie others
Zombieing people can be painful and hurtful for anyone. Therefore, if you are in the habit of cutting off communication suddenly without a proper explanation, clearly state your intentions to set boundaries and expectations from the start of your relationship. Try to be open and honest to prevent conflicts and misunderstandings. If you need to end things, break up with dignity respecting their feelings.
