How to start a conversation with a stranger
Starting a conversation with someone new can be intimidating, but it's a skill worth developing. Whether you are at a networking event, a social gathering, or even just waiting in line, starting a conversation with a stranger can open doors to new connections, shared interests, and unexpected opportunities. Moreover, it's the gateway to establishing a sense of belonging in this lonely world.
Start with a complement
Compliments are a strong way to project positivity. Though it might feel awkward if you are not used to giving them, offering praise can quickly diffuse any tension or unease that might exist. For instance, you can say, "Your positive energy is really contagious," "You have great taste in music, I noticed," or, "Your attention to detail in your projects is remarkable."
Introduce yourself
To begin a conversation, introduce yourself, share a quick overview of your background, and extend a friendly handshake. This approach works well when seeking an initial icebreaker. For example, say, "Hi, I am Arjun. I am a software developer at [company]." This sets a professional tone and encourages the other person to do the same, setting the stage for further conversation.
Crack a lighthearted joke
Wait for the right moment, like when people are eating together. Politely introduce yourself and ask if it's alright to join. Break the ice with a light and friendly joke. For instance, you might say, "Mind if I join? I promise I won't steal your french fries." And if you all have a good laugh, you're off to a great start for a conversation.
Follow-up questions
Now that you've begun a conversation, the next challenge is to sustain it. The key lies in active listening for cues like keywords, facts, opinions, feelings, and especially spontaneous information. For instance, if they talk about their recent trip, you could ask questions like, "How was the place you visited?" This shows that you're paying attention and interested in what they are saying.
Ask open-ended questions
Ask questions that need more than a simple "yes" or "no." It could be someone at the park, a fellow student, or someone you meet on a train journey. For example, if you are chatting with a fellow attendee at a workshop, you could ask, "What got you interested in this topic?" This demonstrates your curiosity and helps the conversation progress naturally.
