#HealthBytes: 5 tips for better sexual communication
What's the story
Sex shouldn't be about just getting under the sheets and silently doing the deed.
Know that non-discussion is a complete disaster for your sex life.
Healthy and open communication about sex (before, during and after the act) between partners is crucial for a safe and satisfying sex life.
Here are top 5 tips for better sexual communication, and therefore better sex.
Three phases
Before, during and after!
See sexual communication as a union of three time-zones, viz. before, during and after sex.
Before sex begins, use communication- especially chats, body language and whispers as a means of foreplay. Use it to set the right mood and arouse your partner.
During sex, communicate what you like, and what not, to make the experience more enjoyable.
Post-sex, discuss what went right, what wrong.
Dirty Talk
Use playful talk to your advantage
This one is a great piece of advice for during-sex communication.
Dirty talk means to playfully convey your thoughts and reactions while actually being engaged in the act.
Tell your partner about what feels good, instruct them to pleasure you, ask them what they'd like, and mutually share fetishes.
To effectively communicate during sex, without spoiling the mood- use facial expressions, moaning, body language.
Q & A
Ask your own questions; Reply to theirs
Another way to make sexual communication more impactful and enjoyable is to ask questions and give answers, and be as specific with both, as possible.
Ask your partner about how they feel/think about a certain sexual act that you shared or want to try out.
Also, encourage them to ask questions, and in response, give honest and specified answers.
Tips #4,5
Make use of sexy noises and body-language
The best communication during sex happens naturally and with-the-flow.
Making too much effort, or constantly blabbering while getting intimate with your partner, will kill the mood, and take the fun out of the bedroom.
So, playfully use moans, groans, or sighs, to better convey your feelings to your partner.
In addition, facial expressions and suggestive body language can be of help as well.