#HealthBytes: Five ways to deal with sexual incompatibility
Firstly, it is important to understand that sexual incompatibility is okay, even in long-term relationships and marriages. Many underlying physical, psychological and emotional conditions could lead to a couple's dissatisfaction, sexually. Pregnancy, surgery, and depression are just a few examples. However, it can be dealt with. Here are five ways in which you can "cure" sexual incompatibility with your partner.
First and foremost, talk it out!
If you feel things are going downhill under the sheets, bring up the topic with your partner and talk it out. Having an open communication is the first step to dealing with sexual incompatibility. Things may not get better initially, but if you give enough time to each other, understanding will come into play. You may also consider visiting your doctor for medical assistance.
#2: Find out what's stressing you, eliminate it
Stress can be a complete turn-off. It can keep you from getting intimate for days or even months. If it's stress that's been ruining your sex life, find out and analyze the reasons. Start dealing with them one by one, to sort your relationship out.
Practise alternate intimacy
Don't restrict your definition of intimacy to just sexual intercourse. Consider indulging in other, non-sexual acts of getting intimate. Hold hands and go out for walks, arrange dinner dates (cliché but works), get physical (without really having sex), exercise together, plan a trip, or do anything that gets you going. This will help enhance both your sexual life and your relationship in general.
Experimentation might be the answer
When two partners' sexual drives or wishes vary, it might get difficult to keep the spark alive. That's why it becomes important to openly discuss it and find a middle ground to work on. In fact, experimenting and finding newer ways of getting excited in bed might actually be the answer for your sexual incompatibility.
#5: If nothing works, seek therapy
If in the end nothing works out, seek therapy. Consult a professional therapist, and attend sessions regularly with your partner to bring up your sexual issues and get over them asap.
