#HealthBytes: Can't enjoy sex? These might be the reasons
Naturally, sex is supposed to be enjoyable. So, in case it's not, it means that there's something wrong with you or your relationship. However, it's alright to experience downfall in your sex life. So, in case you feel like you can't enjoy sex anymore, here are five reasons that might be responsible and what can be done about them.
Stress
If work deadlines keep you up at nights, chances are your cortisol levels are high. Cortisol is a mood-killer and might harm testosterone and other hormonal production in body, keeping you from getting excited in bed. Try relaxing activities like yoga and meditation to calm yourself down, and get your libido back on track again.
Impaired mental health
When you're suffering mentally, your desire to do pretty much everything takes a toll. And naturally your want for sex will fall. Additionally, those anti-depressants might also be responsible. Talk to your doctor to get over it sooner than later. Further, if you feel under-confident about your own body, your sex drive is bound to suffer. Talk it out or try boosting your morale.
Pain/discomfort
According to a 2015 study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, about 30% of women suffer from pain during vaginal intercourse. Reasons could be lack of foreplay, sex after childbirth/surgery, vaginal dryness, skin issues, among other reasons. So, try indulging in foreplay and use lubrication during sex to reduce pain/discomfort. If nothing works, talk to your doctor.
Performance anxiety
If you feel anxious about how well you have been doing in bed, this might hinder your pleasure and satisfaction levels. This is known as Sexual performance anxiety. Causes include emotional issues, body image concerns, and medical conditions like Premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. To deal with it, see your doctor for treatment or consult your therapist.
Sexual incompatibility
Sexually incompatibility between partners could also be the culprit. Just like two people possess different physical and mental traits, their respective sexual behaviors can also vary. Here are some tips to help you get over sexual incompatibility: 1) Talk to your partner about it. 2) Practise non-sexual ways of intimacy. 3) Finally, if nothing seems to work, consult a therapist.
