#HealthBytes: Common queries around first-time sex, answered
There is no set 'right time' to begin your sex life- you should explore your sexuality at your own pace, with a partner you feel comfortable with, and the way that suits you. Talking about first sexual experience, it's the best time to understand the nuances of sexual pleasure, comfort, and safety. Here are answers to the most commonly asked questions about first-time sex.
Will it hurt?
Many people, especially women participants tend to believe that first time sex is necessarily painful. However, that's not the right way to put it. It may or may not hurt. Each body is different from the other, and thus responds in a different manner to sexual activity. It is advisable to use lube for easier penetration. In case it hurts unbearably, see your gynecologist.
Will there be blood?
You might bleed, you might not. One is more likely to bleed if their hymen breaks during penetrative sex, which is quite normal, so there's no need to worry. Also, there won't be a lot of blood, so freaking out should be ruled out. What you can do to reduce risk of bleeding is to use a natural, water-based lubricant and a well-lubricated condom.
Is it necessary to use a condom?
Hands down the most important aspect of having sex for the first time is to understand how important practising safe sex is for your physical and mental well-being. Condoms are usually recommended as they not only provide protection from undesired pregnancy, but also reduce the risk of catching STIs. So, buy some in advance and keep handy! Female condoms can also be tried.
Is it possible for the condom to break?
Although quite rarely, condoms do break. A condom may break during intercourse or other sexual activity; if it's not worn correctly; has surpassed the expiration date; is not your size; or is used with an oil-based lubricant. Bad news is that a broken condom is as bad as using no condom at all, as it might lead to undesired pregnancy, or transmission of STIs.
Is it okay to do it during periods?
It is perfectly normal to engage in sexual activity during periods, but there are certain risk factors and important considerations. Notably, just like any other time, you're at risk for STIs and pregnancy. So, make sure to use protection. Also, since sex during periods can get a little messy, you should keep a towel or wet-wipes handy, or take a shower after the deed.
What if you end up having unprotected sex?
By having unprotected sex, you put yourself at risk of getting pregnant, or even worse, acquiring a Sexually transmitted infection. So, to be on the safe end: 1) Arrange for a contraception, as soon as possible. Emergency contraceptive pills are often recommended to be taken within 72 hours of having unprotected sex. 2) After a couple of weeks, get tested for STIs and pregnancy.
Above all, just have fun
At the end of the day, remember that sex is no competition, with anyone. As long as you and your partner are happy with what you're doing in bed, that's all what matters. So, be playful and try new things. Above all, just have fun!
